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Autistic Children and the Strain on Marriagefrom: Maxx Family Life
It's unfortunate but in modern times too many marriages end in divorce or separation, a statistic that goes even higher when an autistic child is involved. Regardelss of how loving and understanding parents may be towards their child, the truth is that autism is a very difficult matter, and strain on the marriage isn't uncommon. The best plan of action is to try to stay positive about the situation by working to keep the marriage healthy and avoiding marital problems and hopefully survive the difficulties of raising an autistic child.
Why did you marry your husband or wife? If you ask yourself this question often, you can focus on the postivie and good things about your marriage. Raising a child with autism is stressful, and if you're stressed out, there's a tendency to snap at another person for the smallest missteps. Rather than focusing on any bad qualities, take some time to enjoy one another the way you did at the beginning of your relationship, which may include spending some time away from your children.
When you find out that your child is autistic, it's beneficial to make sure you and your spouse aren't the only two people with whom your child will respond. A grandparent, aunt or uncle, mature sibling, or nanny are good people to have in your child's life in the most intimate way possible. This way, alone time with your spouse is possible.
Work together with your spouse to help your child rather than fight with one another. It's very likely you'll have different ideas about what to do in certain situations, so be prepared to compromise and always seek professional consultations before making any medical decisions for your child. By working together, remember that you're giving your child the best opportunities. Try to set aside time every week to spend together as a family, especially if one parent or the other is the primary caregiver.
Finally, don't be afraid to find help when you need it. Part of any successful marriage is spending some time apart to focus on individual needs, and it's no different when you have an autistic child. However, if you find you and your spouse aren't happy unless you're spending time alone, it's time to reevaluate the situation. A family or marriage counselor can help both of you get back on the right track to a happy life together. It might also be beneficial to meet other couples raising autistic children.
You're not alone, and dealing with this situation is never going to be easy. By making an effort to keep your marriage happy, even when you're stressed out and anxious about the task of raising an autistic child, you and your spouse can ensure your marriage doesn't end in a difficult divorce.
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